“You keep saying it is a decision! Everything cannot be about a decision.”
Oh, really! If you fall out of a tree and break your arm, how was that not related to your decision to climb the tree? Or to not be as careful as you could have been about where you put your foot? If you did not make that last sale, how was it not related to your being just unprepared enough so you were unable to meet that client’s needs or to address their objections or to know how to match the benefits to their needs? No matter what you are experiencing in life, if you trace it back, you can find a decision fork where you chose the path that brought you to it instead of taking a different path.
Where you are in life, what you are currently experiencing, whether success or failure, is indeed because of decisions you have made, whether you happen to believe it right now or not. You say you got rear-ended this morning while sitting at a red light and that was NOT because of your decision? Okay, how about this: If you had decided to leave 3 minutes sooner or 3 minutes later, where would you have been when that driver got to that intersection? Probably not in front of him.
That’s a tough one to swallow, isn’t it? However, your willingness to accept your personal responsibility for the things that happen to you empowers you to believe you can do what it takes to be successful, too. That’s the “victor” stance! Your unwillingness to accept that responsibility allows you to blame someone or something else and leaves you in the “victim” stance. Victims never win. Success or failure? Victor or victim? It’s your choice!
Two posts ago we started writing about excuses and their impact on your success. If you have not done the exercises in those posts, please go back and do them before reading further. If you did them and are still reading this one, you actually may be cut out for success and just need a little fine tuning. To get there you have some hard work ahead of you. No, not that kind of hard work. Doing the hard work to be a successful entrepreneur, whether that is as a real estate investor or something else, is a given. The hard work I mean is in disciplining yourself to change from excuses to results.
How old are you? That’s how long you’ve been working on getting good at making excuses. You cannot flip a switch and change all those years’ habits in an instant. It will take hard work to change, but the harder you work at it, the sooner you can put it behind you. Consider getting a coach to speed up the process. Make sure at the very least that you use a proven process for changing old habits and have someone who will hold you accountable. While a good coach will automatically provide those both, you may be able to find another alternative. We’ll talk some other time about changing habits. Search the web. I’m sure you’ll find lots of suggestions. Take the initiative. Go for the result. Don’t make an excuse about why it is not convenient right now. That’s the old habit. Start practicing the new habit. Prove you have the self-discipline to do it now, no matter what.
If you are STILL reading, congratulate yourself. THERE’S HOPE!! You did not make an excuse about why you did not want to finish reading. You have shown enough commitment to your success that you really ought to go for it! Best wishes! (Now go do the web search!)